Broken Home Child Having a Problem?

Divorce will undoubtedly have an impact on everyone. Starting from the two couples who were divorced from the children of victims of divorce, or often referred to as "broken home" children.

Divorce is more difficult for children, especially if they don't get the correct explanation and attention. Children from divorced families can experience behavioral problems.

What might the "broken home" child feel and experience?

Lack of love
When the father and mother's condition is not right, maybe they often quarrel or argue, then the children are the victims. The child becomes less affectionate.

Primarily if after the divorce, both parents often focus more on their problems so that the child becomes a little forgotten and less cared for.

Quite Vulnerable to Experiencing Emotional Problems
Parental divorce will undoubtedly hurt children, especially if the child has entered school age. School-age children are usually better able to express and show their feelings to others. For example, at school, when playing with friends or in other places.

Children who were previously well behaved may do aggressive things such as being rude, shouting, or fighting with their peers. Not only that, but "broken home," children can also experience depression and stress. This condition also turns out to last quite a long time. This was conveyed by an American psychologist, Lori Rappaport, who was quoted from hello Sehat.

Problems with Education
The existence of family problems, such as divorce, will undoubtedly impact children's lives, especially in the field of education. Broken home children often experience decreased performance at school.

Changes in the family atmosphere from initially harmonious to full of quarrels and separation will undoubtedly change the child's mood so that the child becomes unable to concentrate on learning. The child will also think about the situation of both parents. This often hinders children's learning activities so that the children's achievement drops dramatically in the end.

Having problems in social interactions
Broken home children may experience problems in social interactions. For example, because children too often hear their parents fight, shout, and imitate these behaviors in their peers. If this keeps happening, the child will likely start to be shunned by his friends.

Not only that, according to psychologist Carl Pickhardt, who was published in Psychology Today, when they grow up, but children also tend not to believe in a relationship, for example, the relationship that exists with their potential partner. This is probably due to the experience of parents' divorce, which in the past had a lot to do with children's lives.

Easy to Influence
When the family atmosphere is not conducive, one of the children's entertainment is hanging out with friends in the neighborhood. The reason is that children may be able to confide in friends or play to get rid of their sadness.

Well, if the environment of the child's friends is not right, then the child may be affected by malicious behavior that is also carried out by their playmates. The dangers of drugs to crime are typical cases.

Hating Parents
Broken home children are more likely to hate their parents. This happens because the child does not understand what is going on between their parents. The child has not even been able to accept the conditions that happened to him.

For example, if, in the past, they were able to live with both parents, now that the parents are divorced, the child must choose to live with one of the parents. Especially if this choice makes the child have to change schools because the previous school is far from where he lives now. Children naturally feel that they have lost their friends. This is what often makes children hate both parents.

There are many negative impacts that "broken home" children can experience. They are starting from emotional problems, social interactions, to problems in the field of education.

All of these adverse effects tend to be mostly experienced by school-age children. This is because school-age children have started to become aware of changes in their surrounding environment.

Thus, it is essential for parents to precisely and carefully explain divorce and pay more attention to children after divorce, especially in terms of co-parenting parenting.

Jaka Haryanto

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